To Be or To Do, That is the Question

Then with one quick realization, my perspective on life swiftly changed:

"To be or not to be, that is the question."

Or, in other words:

"To be or to do, that is the question."

I can't do anything perfectly. I've been broken up with, I break up with people, begin projects I never finish, finish projects seeping with imperfections, say the wrong things, don't say the things I should say, have jealous thoughts, ruminate over regret, make choices I'm not even 89% sure about, linger in the past, stress about the future, wish my body was this or that... I can't do a darn thing perfectly.

But I can be perfect. Because being perfect is a process that each and every one of us can experience. It's not about whether or not we succeed. It's about whether or not we can stop worrying about doing long enough to realize we are human beings. We can keep trying to fundamentally change who we are (which in my experience doesn't work), or we can start living life and being.

Being, to me, means...

Taking risks. Trying. Failing. Succeeding. Reflecting. Repeating. Loving the process that is life. Loving the process that is becoming. Holding on. Letting go. Sitting still in wait. Breathing. Panting. Running. Sleeping. Loving ourselves. Loving others. Hurting. Cliff-jumping. Learning to be more like the divine creatures we are. Dating someone to figure out more about who they are and who you are. Breaking up with someone despite what others might say or think. Staying with someone despite what others might say or think. Standing up for yourself. Standing up for others. Going against the grain. Going with the flow. Taking that vacation. Keeping an open-mind. Closing out those who bring us down. Beginning an "unrealistic" project. Ending a "realistic" project. Chasing our dreams. Forgiving ourselves. Forgiving others. Sticking with what's conventional. Discarding all things conventional. Learning from regrettable silences. Learning from harsh words spoken. Making a darn decision already. Taking your time. Listening to advice, criticism, and others, but always relying on your compass of a heart. Daring greatly, always.

"To be or to do, that is the question."

And at the end of the day, the answer is the one we choose to make our reality.